You'll wish you'd done this sooner.

Powerfully effective relationship therapy for couples and individuals who long for a deeper, more intimate connection.

Certified EFT Couples Therapist and Gottman Method Couples Therapy in Bellingham, Washington.

Something has to change.

You struggle to communicate and feel frustrated by the same arguments that never get resolved.

Your trust has been damaged and you question whether you can try again. You long for a closer emotional or sexual connection and don’t know where to start.

You wonder, how can we change these patterns so that we both feel connected, fulfilled, and respected?

You’re not alone.

Lasting change takes the right intervention with the right guide.

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Helping couples reconnect since 2006.

Inside Passage Relationship Counseling is dedicated to providing the most effective therapy for improving your relationship to yourself and securing trust and connection in your marriage.


Weekly Individual Therapy​

Using mindfulness, attachment-focused, and IFS therapy methods, I can help you heal anxiety, depression, trauma, and relationship problems through individual therapy.

I can help you create the lasting change you need for a happier, healthier life.

3-Day Intensive Marriage Counseling

1 couple + 3 days = accelerated results. 

Go deeper to get farther. Experience the healing benefits of 3-6 months of couples therapy in just 3 days.

You’ll gain a profound understanding of how to reconnect with your partner and learn the essential tools for communication to build a stronger, more intimate relationship. 

Weekly Couples Therapy

As a Certified EFT Couples Therapist and Gottman Method Couples Therapist, I offer a tailored approach to getting to the root of what’s coming between you and your partner. 

I’ll teach you how to build a bridge back to each other.

Hi, I’m Heather Varnau, Licensed Mental Health Counselor.

After 15 years of clinical experience with relationship therapy, the words I hear most often are, “We couldn’t have done this without you.” 

My highest priority is providing a safe space and skillful guidance for you to finally find resolution to your most difficult challenges.

Combining the two gold standards of couples therapy, evidence-based EFT Couples Therapy and research-based Gottman Method Couples Therapy, I’ve helped hundreds of individuals and couples heal, reconnect , and find a positive path forward.

If your relationship is suffering, I can help.

Client Gratitude

"Thank you for saving our marriage. We were really in a bad spot with no hope left. You were able to wake us up and pull us out. THANK YOU!!"
"Thank you so much for the WONDERFUL and enlightening time that you gave us. I am so happy that we invested in our relationship and could not envision anyone else walking beside us as we gathered information that we will carry with us forever. If you've ever wondered or questioned whether you have chosen the right professional path for yourself, let me assure you that you are right where you belong!"
"Working together with you during the intensive was such an amazing and helpful experience for us. Your care, understanding, questions and sense of humor really allowed us to feel comfortable enough to look at issues we had been experiencing, understanding them in a new light from the other's point of view, and ultimately led us to reconnect and find the joy, love, and excitement that brought us together in the beginning. Thank you so much for your help, ideas and support. We are excited to continue this process of discovery with you there to help and support us."

Are you ready to build a bridge back to each other?

I can’t promise it’ll be easy, but I can promise that:

You can

Safely explore the habits and patterns at the core of your relationship with yourself and your partner and gain clarity about how you might want to change.

It is possible

To work together to create a relationship that honors both of your feelings and needs.

You will

Learn the essential tools needed to support a healthy, secure relationship well into the future.